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SCOTT - Is it wrong to marry outside of the Church, knowing that your wife would not be LDS and your kids would probably not be either?

JOEL - It could be wrong for you if your goal is exaltation in the Celestial Kingdom and if you want your relationship with your future wife and children to continue beyond this life.
In God's perspective, not having a temple marriage is wrong for anyone who has already taken the first step of baptism, which is the beginning of the path to eternal life with Him. Baptism symbolizes the covenant by which people promise to come into the fold of God, to take upon themselves the name of Christ, to stand as a witness for God, to keep his commandments, and to serve him to the end. And there is the expection that the member will continue to receive the other saving ordinances required for eternal life.
The Lord, as his part of the covenant, is to pour out his spirit upon church members, redeem them from their sins, raise them in the first resurrection, and give them eternal life (Mosiah 18:7-10; D&C 20:37). If we do not continue on that path that we started at baptism, by not getting married in the Temple, our journey towards eternal life might be cut short and God will not be obligated to bless us with exaltation in the Celestial Kingdom. Your future wife and children may be deprived of the blessings of the gospel and priesthood in the home. When you die, your relationship with your spouse and children will end.
Now, there is always the hope and possibility that, in this life or the next, the member spouse might later bring his or her non-member spouse in to the church and be sealed, which has happened for many. However the odds of that actually happening are very low.
So, it depends on whose perspective you are looking at(yours or God's) on whether it is "wrong" or not. Ultimately we all have the freedom to make our own choices. If we happen to fall in love with a non-member that we know we want to spend the rest of our life with, we might be willing to accept the consequences. It depends on what we are willing to live with and what our goals are for this life and beyond.

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